Reader Question:
I have been casually witnessing this person for nearly a-year. We’ve fantastic chemistry, go along really and always take pleasure in each other’s business. They are lately divorced after a married relationship breakdown, so they are playing the field quite a bit. We have been really sexual with each other but haven’t already been close but.
I believe like perhaps for this reason precisely why he could be sticking around. Recently i’ve been experiencing like finishing the “friendship” or simply just starting a platonic connection. I believe like i’m “bored” or dropping desire for him.
Exactly what do you believe?
-Afra (England)
Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Response:
Dear Afra,
There are a few key words that strike me. You say you have been “casually matchmaking,” you happen to be “very intimate” and he is “playing industry.”
I can inform you the primary reason he’s keeping around: no-strings-attached sexual fee while he auditions additional girlfriends.
I do believe you ought to be less concerned with the reason why the guy remains along with you and worried about precisely why you have invested annually in your life on a commitment that doesn’t seem to be heading anyplace.
When this low-criteria commitment fits you, next ensure that is stays. But if you would like much more, state it and imply it.
And back your own terms with behavior. If the guy does not offer you things you need, move ahead.
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